Todays topic - the overwhelming task of finding a guy - most definitely not a deep topic.

 

So apparently I am a high maintenance chick because I have been born and raised in the United States, and supposedly I am a rich spoiled princess. You see being an only child, and my parents having worked hard to make a good living, I get whatever I want.  I have great designer brand clothes. In fact, I demand the brands I want - seven jeans, and very expensive shoes. I also somehow remain innocent but party hardy in college. I find my mate in college and occasionally will have my parents look for a guy for me.  And of course, I am a total Daddy's girl.  Oh and I am guju, so my family is money grubbing social gossip snobs.

 

Well if I am going to be stereotyped as a South Asian Female Valley Girl - UMMMM AS IF!!!

Apparently this is what some people think of me (comments from those in my family, at work etc etc).

 

GET REAL.  Let me straighten the record.  I am sure i have some of those characteristics but man - i am a decent human being!  As per being high maintenance, i am fine with some pizza and a beer as long as we have some good conversation.  And I am all about Target brand name jeans.  I suppose i at least fit the stereotype of being a cheap desi,  But hey - i have loans to pay off - thats right. Mommy and daddy sure did have money to pay off college. But guess who worked 3 jobs through college while getting 3 degrees and three minors in 5 years.  I did party in college sure  - but unlike my few Indian friends i had- my parents knew all about it, because they did the same themselves - AND IN THE 70's in the US in fact.  I'm sure they did worse than me.

 

As for being a Daddy's girl -hmmm not  really.  We have had our own family soap opera so not so much typical here. Spoiled?  hmmm - ill admit a bit sure - but mostly my grand parents do that - thats their job rt? and my dad i think does it bc hes not emotionally capable of connecting in other ways - but i work hard anyway -

 

So where does this put me with trying to find a guy???  Close to impossible.  See I run into this whole Indian versus assimilated American thing again. AGAIN! I'm sure I sound like a broken record now having just posted on whistling for bread and being an abcd.

 

To cut to the actual story - I seem to walk some strange line where i am neither white washed nor completely Indian.  So i date and i also have my parents looking for a guy. I mean if my parents approve the guys cant be that bad since my parents know me better than most people.  And my dad is more picky than i am.  But apparently for those that I date I'm too Indian and for those that are brought to the house I'm too white washed.  For instance - i drive a truck and listen to country music - too white washed - but i have studied kuchipudi and am very religiously Hindu - too Indian.  My best bets then are with Mexicans and whites!  Whom i have dated and seem to me much more accepting of me for me.  And don't even get me started on the fact  that the proposals coming to the house - the minute they find out I'm 4'10.5" their offer is withdrawn - what happened to finding out what the person is like?

 

As i talk to the girls at work - 4 were born and raised in India - so traditionally - boys were brought to the house - dated a bit and then said yes LESS THAN THREE MONTHS LATER!!!! i could never imagine dating someone for 3 months and deciding to get married - white washed there i suppose - another found her mate in college in the US - ok great - but uh yeah that boat has sailed for me - 5 years of college and who knows how many relationships later - i got nothing.

 

At least boy wise - what i do have is an independence that many of the girls at work don't have.  I can change my flat tire, i have lived on my own for 6 years, i can take care of myself at age 23 - don't get me wrong my parents help out - but my parents want to see me be able to take care of myself before i get married - and if you consider the divorce rates here - i cant blame them.

 

So as per now I've given up actively looking - at least for a while - i like working and living on my own and I'm sure if the Big Guy up there is watching out for me -HeORshe will bring whatever i need my way...